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Immediate help in decision-making crises

Crises are turning points. Because from here life can go in the right direction again or completely wrong, it is important to make good decisions. Those who honestly surrender in a crisis will find a reliable way out of it. The emergency aid kit from the decision master can also be of good service here.

Puppy bonus is a great thing. Small dogs can get away with a lot. They run around super wild, bite shoes or charge at big dogs. But they don't get bitten and everyone just thinks they're cute. That's how people feel when they are babies and toddlers. They just take everything as it comes and enjoy the ups and downs. These beginners of life have it easy. And what about the pensioners? After all, they have the hardships behind them and can relax. But many a retrospective is not quite so rosy. And growing old, they say, is no fun anyway.

Always in the school of life

Let's face it: we have outgrown infancy and are students of life right up to retirement. We try to get by as best we can, to be reasonably diligent, to always make the right decision. But it doesn't help - sometimes we have to do detention. Then we get angry because we think it's completely unfair. Some even remain in detention. They repeat class after class, always seeming to end up with the worst classmates and the most unfair teachers. How do you get out of such a spiral of failure? Is there a way out that one can choose?

The leap for happiness and the grasp into emptiness

Dark hours exist for every human being. Even those who have literally leased their luck, like Gustav Gans, are not protected from the blows of fate. They get a new boss who makes their life hell. They suffer an accident or fall seriously ill, lose a loved one. Sometimes they believe they have made the best decision of their lives. They take a new path, take a (in their opinion) calculable risk, reach for happiness with both hands and - lose their grip. Is this now an argument for never taking a chance?

The failure, the crisis, the being down: I have experienced it all myself. And mostly it was related to risky ventures. It's like a gambling addiction, an inner challenge. Come on, you can do it, you've always wanted to try it. I took a huge run-up, slipped and sat on my butt again. It hurt a little more each time. Eventually, I started to think about the upward lurch. What actually helps me to get back on my feet after such disappointments, in such crises? I have developed a formula, a kind of patent remedy. And I tried this recipe out on myself. Believe me, it really helps! I use it successfully in my daily work as a decision coach. But don't expect any super-philosophical, complicated insights now. The truth is not complicated at all. It is simple and obvious.

Beginners of failure and advanced

The writer Max Frisch says that time does not transform us, but unfolds us. I have also had this experience. We already carry our insights deep within us. But it is only through crises and over the years that our serenity grows. Life then gradually puts itself together like a jigsaw puzzle. No, my failure is not the fault of others. No, the whole world has not conspired against me. These are thoughts that help in the crisis. The beginners of failure react differently. They feel paralysed, almost annihilated. They struggle for breath and no longer see any meaning in life. They accuse their fellow human beings, politicians, foreign nations or the Good Lord of having tripped them up. And yet: underneath all the shouting and whining is a voice that says - "Don't let it get you down!" Do you know it?

If you are reading these lines right now and reflecting calmly, you cannot be in a deep crisis. At the very bottom you lack the sense of distance, of deliberation. Even a decision does not mature in the most acute emergency. First there is always anger, despair, horror. Then comes the grief for what has been lost, for what has not been achieved. And then you begin to grasp the situation. To grasp it in the true sense of the word. Then you come to a point that is very important for you. You have to make a decision that will lead you out of the crisis. This weighing is a very important survival skill in the crisis. And that is why I recommend everyone to train their decision-making skills already in times outside the crisis. As a decision-making master, you will come out of every vale of tears.

Surrender is freedom

There are people who withdraw completely from decisions. For example, Schorsch, who disappears into his hoodie and always says "fine" when you ask him how he's doing. But he is not fine. He has taken himself out of the ups and downs of life. He lives on automatic mode and withers away inside. We, on the other hand, we see ourselves as fighters, we are prepared to play hardball even after stumbling. I, too, have always approached crises with this highly active attitude. But at some point I asked myself, "Is this actually wise?" Then I took a closer look at my crisis and realised: The crisis is not fighting at all. It is more like a wall. And I am a person who runs senselessly against this wall again and again. Maybe I should just stop running. After all, I can't change the rules of the game. And right now the rules are: Not through here. Then give it up. Then give it up. Then surrender! This word - surrender - always seemed like the last thing I wanted. But now I realised: that gives freedom. There is a truce, a creative space that really makes it possible for me to decide anew. Surrender is freedom. The freedom to do something else. Or to approach the problem from a different angle.

Imagine you are playing chess. You get into a terrible jam. Three more moves and the game ends in checkmate. What do you do now? Scream? Knock over the board? Threaten your opponent? And think about whether you're going to retire? - No, you finish your game and admit to yourself that you have met a stronger opponent. This dignified surrender gives you strength for new games. Firstly, you are regarded by your fellow players as a fair, resilient opponent. Secondly, in the truce after the surrender, you analyse the game and recognise your mistakes.

The new order of things

Life is not a chess game. Very different beams sometimes come crashing down on us. Perhaps we lose the ability to stand on our feet and move around independently due to an accident. Or we lose a person with whom we have lived for decades. Things can get pretty bad. Some who experience something like this never recover. They mourn the past, the "better" times. They can't look forward. Others decide to live. Yes, you say, I'm down, at the bottom, but that's the way it is. Let's see what new paths lead out of it. When these people surrender, it does not mean that everything is over. For them, surrender represents a new order of things.

At this point, when you set out on a new stage in life's journey, you need to make good decisions. Your life experience and sometimes a good decision coach will help you. I have put together the emergency kit for you. It contains a lot of tools that will help you out of the crisis. Try it out - you can get it for free at

Simply request the emergency aid kit from the decision master. Good tools can save lives.

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