Crises are turning points. Because from here life can go in the right direction again or go completely wrong, it is important to make good decisions. Those who honestly surrender in a crisis will find a reliable way out of it. The decision master's emergency aid kit can also serve you well here.
Puppy bonus is a great thing. Small dogs can get away with a lot. They run around super wild, bite shoes or charge at big dogs. But they don't get bitten and everyone just thinks they're cute. That's how people feel when they are babies and toddlers. They just take everything as it comes and enjoy the ups and downs. These beginners in life have it easy. And what about pensioners? They have the hardships behind them and can relax. But many a retrospective is not quite so rosy. And getting old, they say, is no fun anyway.
Always in the school of life
Let's face it: having grown out of infancy, we are students of life well into retirement. We try to get by as best we can, to be reasonably diligent, to always make the right decision. But it doesn't help - sometimes we have to do detention. Then we get angry because we think it's completely unfair. Some even stay behind. They repeat class after class, seemingly always ending up with the worst classmates and the most unfair teachers. How do you get out of such a spiral of failure? Is there a way out that you can choose?
The leap for happiness and reaching into the void
There are dark hours for everyone. Even those who have literally leased luck, like Gustav Gans, are not protected from the blows of fate. They get a new boss who makes their life hell. They suffer an accident or fall seriously ill, lose a loved one. Sometimes they believe they have made the best decision of their lives. They embark on a new path, take a (in their opinion) calculable risk, grab happiness with both hands and - lose their grip. Is this now an argument for never taking a chance?
Failure, crisis, being on the ground: I've experienced it all myself. And it was usually related to risky ventures. It's like a gambling addiction, an inner challenge. Come on, you can do it, you've always wanted to try it. I took a huge run-up, slipped and sat on my butt again. It hurt a little more each time. Eventually, I started to think about getting back up. What actually helps me to get back on my feet after such disappointments, in such crises? I developed a formula for this, a kind of patent remedy. And I tried this recipe out on myself. Believe me, it really helps! I use it successfully in my daily work as a decision coach. But don't expect some super-philosophical, complicated insight. The truth is not complicated at all. It is simple and obvious.
Beginners to failure and advanced learners
The writer Max Frisch says that time does not transform us, but rather unfolds us. I have also had this experience. We already have our insights deep within us. But it is only through crises and over the years that our serenity grows. Life then gradually comes together like a jigsaw puzzle. No, my failure is not the fault of others. No, the whole world is not conspiring against me. These are thoughts that help in a crisis. The beginners of failure react differently. They feel paralyzed, almost destroyed. They struggle to catch their breath and no longer see any meaning in life. They accuse their fellow human beings, politicians, foreign nations or the good Lord of having tripped them up. And yet, underneath all the shouting and whining, there is a voice that says - "Don't let it get you down!" Do you know that?
If you are reading these lines right now and reflecting calmly, you cannot be in a deep crisis. Right at the bottom, you lack a sense of distance, a sense of consideration. Even a decision does not mature in the most acute emergency. At first there is always anger, despair, horror. Then comes grief for what has been lost, for what has not been achieved. And then you begin to grasp the situation. To grasp it in the true sense of the word. Then you come to a point that is very important for you. You have to make a decision that will lead you out of the crisis. This weighing up is a very important survival skill in a crisis. And that's why I recommend everyone to train their decision-making skills in times outside the crisis. As a master decision-maker, you will emerge from every vale of tears.
Surrender is freedom
There are people who completely withdraw from decisions. For example, Schorsch, who disappears into his hoodie and always says "fine" when you ask him how he is. But he's not fine. He has said goodbye to the ups and downs of life. He lives on automatic mode and is withering away inside. We, on the other hand, see ourselves as fighters, we are prepared to keep going even after we have stumbled. I have always approached overcoming crises with this highly active attitude. But at some point I asked myself: "Is this actually wise?" Then I took a closer look at my crisis and realized: The crisis isn't fighting at all. It's more like a wall. And I'm like a person who keeps running pointlessly into this wall. Maybe I should just stop running. After all, I can't change the rules of the game. And the rules are: No through here. Then let it go. Then give it up. Then surrender! This word - surrender - always seemed to me to be the last thing I wanted. But now I realized: it gives you space. There is a truce, a creative space that really makes it possible for me to make a new decision. Surrender is freedom. The freedom to do something else. Or to approach the problem from a different angle.
Imagine you are playing chess. You get into a terrible jam. Three more moves and the game ends in checkmate. What do you do now? Scream? Knock over the board? Threaten your opponent? And think about whether you're going to die? - No, you play your game to the end and admit that you have come up against a stronger opponent. This dignified surrender gives you strength for new games. Firstly, you are seen as a fair, resilient opponent by your fellow players. Secondly, in the truce after the surrender you analyze the game and recognize your mistakes.
The reorganization of things
Life is not a game of chess. Sometimes completely different beams come crashing down on us. We may lose the ability to stand on our own two feet and move around independently as a result of an accident. Or we lose someone we have lived with for decades. Things can get pretty bad. Some people who experience something like this never recover. They mourn the past, the "better" times. They can't look to the future. Others decide to move on with their lives. Yes, you say, I'm at the bottom, in the trough, but that's the way it is. Let's see what new paths lead out of it. When these people capitulate, it doesn't mean that everything is over. For them, surrender represents a reorganization of things.
At this point, when you set off on a new stage of your life's journey, you need to make good decisions. Your life experience and sometimes a good decision coach can help you with this. I have put together an emergency kit for you. It contains a lot of tools to help you out of a crisis. Try it out - you can get it for free at entscheidungsmeister.de/nothilfekoffer.
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